Taking it Fast

Jess and I have a tendency to do things “before you’re supposed to.” It was only after our second date that we confessed all our deepest, darkest secrets. I will not talk about what those secrets were, but I’ll give a hint: they revolve around war crimes that we’ve both committed. That was when we both discovered our mutual disdain for the Geneva Convention.

We went on a vacation together pretty early-on in our relationship, too. (Jess has a post about that here.) Suffice to say, it was something we did with barely any prior planning—we just decided to go and then went as soon as we could. It was the best vacation of my life.

After the vacation, we started living together. We didn’t discuss it; it just happened. Two and a half months or so into dating.

In the same vein, we adopted Sirius together when we had only been dating for three months. I’ve written a post about that here. The main takeaway is that Sirius, our wonderful dog, keeps sneaking out at night and dealing narcotics to the teenagers in the neighborhood. We’ve tried to get him to stop or at least share some of the profits with us, but he keeps looking at us with his puppy-dog eyes, so maybe it’s just one of those facts of life that we just need to accept.

I had been planning on proposing to Jess on our anniversary at the place where we first met on our first date. Jess knew that I had been planning on proposing in the future—and she even guessed what my plan was. In retrospect, it was so sentimental it was easy to guess. But after she guessed, I proposed in that moment. I still remember my elegant words:

Jess, wills you dos mes thes honors ofs makings mes thes happiests mans ons thes faces ofs thes Earths?

And, as conveyed in my post about our wedding, we couldn’t wait for that either. We’ve taken everything fast. And it’s wonderful in every way.

I guess my point is, if I have one, normative claims only pertain to normal people. There’s no right or wrong way to do anything—there’s no right or wrong at all! That’s my philosophy, and that’s how I justify violating international law.